venting

ok so I am writing this becasue I need to get it down so it dosn't eat me up inside, on Easter my fiance text his daughter who is 15 and asked if he was getting her the usual time she stated she was going to her grandmothers, ok he then responded well it would have been nice if someone let him know what was going on. I am thinking ya it would have been nice noone like to be left hanging on I don't knows. His daughters mother then repsonded by telling him that this is their day with her and he was supposed to have Thanksgiving but he never invited her over. He has records showing he did try to contact them by email but he never got a response as to wether or not he can get her. Last night he gets an email from the daughters mother telling him that his daughter has his number and that she will call him if she wants to see him, because she is missing out on way to much as a child and going out with her friends (he gets her 4 hrs a week) I am hurt and irritated because I see him hurt, I know it's not my place to get involved but at the same time it is eating me up becasue I am lay all the cards on table and talk about it, you might not like what I haveto say but yet what I say needs to be heard.

See he hasn't known his daughter long only 7 yrs, his daughters mother and him starting seeing each other when they were in high school, she already has child with someone else (red flag rite there) but she never stopped let's say seeing the first ones father and when he found out he broke it off she then told him she was pregnant for the second time he told her if it's mine prove it. It took her 8 years to prove it to him. In the mean time she married and had 2 more children with the first ones father, and he raised all of them as his own until he went to court for paternity tests on all the children 3 came back as his 1 did not.
Now my fiance is trying to bond with his daughter which is probably the only child he will have and the mother plays these games where your day is Sunday 4-8 and then emails him saying the daughter is sick, they have something else to do etc etc.
Looking at the laws in Mass. really isn't for the father but they do say both parents should contribute to raising the child and supporting the child, this woman has never held a job as she started having children the ripe old age of 15. He has never missed his child support payment if your wondering he pays well over $800 a month for 1 child

Planning Vacations

My fiance loves to ride his motorcycle, in 2010 we went to Sturgis motorcycle rally in South Dakota, I was not looking forward to it and driving 2000 across the country was alittle scary. We trailered the bike which was a good thing and we followed our friends who were in the truck in front, but it actually was a great 7 days and cannot wait to go again. I will post more pictures of our vacation later.

This year we are planning a vacation to New Hampshire trying to keep it alittle cheaper during bike week. I have never gone to Laconia so this should also be a little adventure. During bike week they close the road up Mt. Washington to cars and only allow motorcycles..Hhhmm not sure how I feel towards this. It would be great to go up there again but I remember it being really scary. The first time I went I was little and me and my dad went up in a van they have that just drives people up and back. I remember the tires on my side (of course) being litterally on the side of the pavement rite on the side of the mt with a straight drop off with no guard rails. The second time my Father drove.

But now I have a really good camera and it being the highest point in New Hampshire I should be able to get some really nice shots. It looks like I will be following him up in my car as I want to look for moose on a day that we are there and I refuse to do that on the bike..lol

In October we are going to West Virginia and staying in a Yurt so that should be another adventure. My fiance has always wanted to do Skyline drive and when your a biker there are certain trips and roads that almost all of them want to do. But that should also be really nice with the fall foliage although we will be about 2 weeks before their peak. I love the outdoors although not overly active for long hikes...lol he is planning something else for me to enjoy. I have a choice of a national park or a cave and both I would really like to do but I don't think we will have the time. So I told him to decide.

In August we are talking about going to Nova Scotia but that is an easy plan as his family lives there so we really don't need to plan anything, just call them and tell them we are on our way. All we really need to plan is getting our passports and telling our jobs.

Jewelry

I worked with a woman for about 5 years, when I meet her I didn't like her but she never did anything for me to have that feeling so after a few years I had brushed it off as "it's just me" she asked me to show her how to make jewelry. Ok not liking it but she was kinda a friend so I told her I would do it. I am the type of person that even if I get these bad feelings about people I will help if you need it until you do something to me then I can hold a grudge for life. I make and sell jewelry as a hobby but it's not a job for me, she was into the bigger pieces where I deal mainly in crystals and make elegant pieces. So I was upset but at the time her style was different.
She asked if I wanted to do a fair with her, ok it was $20 for the table and according to her "we both had to make a donation piece" but she was the one who had to drop it off, kinda strange but I again brushed it off. I had told her that it would be alot easier seeing we were at the same table to have seperate bags to keep the money in and keep the tags with our initails on it to keep track of what we sell. She insisted that we put our money together. Ok now I'm getting suspicous.
I sold to people I work with and I started to hear stories that whenever I made a piece for someone she would tell them oh I can make that much cheaper why didn't you ask me...I have been selling to these people for couple of years. So I called the people handling the fair and asked them how it worked for each table, they had told me 2 people cannot sell at the same table and they only require 1 donation gift per table. Ok now I'm getting pissed I pay for a table that I am not supposed to sell at and you're leaving it to me to make the donation gift while you put no money into this fair at all except for things you can make money on.
I confronted her on this she flipped we were friends on Facebook and instantly deleted and blocked me. I sent her an email which was not vulgar "which I can be when pissed" just basically telling her that I knew she lied to me about the fair and I know what she is doing and saying to my customers, and that I had no ill feelings towards her but would apreciate her to stop trying to steal people from me if they like her stuff then they like her stuff but don't undercut me and steal my designs. Her husband then sent me a threatening email mind you I could not get ahold of Jen to talk to her and I wasn't on the same working schedual as her. I also had a Facebook Fanpage which during the night her husband had defaced my page which I had to change my name and close out my page that I worked hard in creating.
About a year and a half ago I had made a beautiful set for a woman I work with it's Sterling Silver and made up of clear and Xilion crystals, lately she has been wearing it everytime I see her. "Ok great it's holding up well and still looks great". I went on Jen's fan page and sure enough she copied it only difference is she changed it to red and white and of course mine is put together 10xs better, but even still this is how you repay a person who got you started and gave you supplies in which I paid for to help out????
this is my fan page http://www.facebook.com/pages/Kristens-Kreations/299914717317?ref=ss

this is jens http://www.facebook.com/pages/Jennifers-Jewels/261220901583?v=wall

she has copied alot of my pieces but the latest is the red and white necklace that has just been posted

The Past Always Returns

I received a text from my sister the other night to call my ex. "Why?" I have not seen or heard from him in 7 years. I heard he was going through some problems in his life with his new girlfriend and mother of his 2 children, but what does this haveto do with me. After many years of fighting major depression of loosing my house, and life as I knew it, seeing I was with this man since I was 14, I have finally moved on and engaged to a wonderful guy who is complete opposite of my ex.  When I left him he had kept the house we had bought together.
Appearently this woman has filed a restraining order on him and he is now out of the house and she continues to live there with her 2 children and the 2 they have together, mind you her name is not on the house nor are they married, he has not seen his kids in over a month. She has charged him with pushing her while holding their youngest, and that he is always drunk and is extremely mean when he drinks.

Ok this is what I know about him seeing I was with him for so long and his drinking is the reason I left which got bad the last 1-2 yrs we were together before that he was an occasional drinker.. But he has never hit, pushed, or threatened me in any way, when we were fighting about his drinking and it was usually when he was drunk, I would be the one to go after him becasue he never had any emotion to what he was doing to me-us. He would always try to walk away. He is a nonconfrotational person (and I believe that was another reson why we split as with major problems he would never talk about them) so it is extremely hard to believe that he as has done this. As evidence I guess you would say she states that he has these certain habits due to the fact that is drunk all the time day and night..Uuumm well like I said I was with him for several years and he has always had these habits and I can say nope he dosn't do them because he is drunk.

He has asked me to go to court with him. I have told my fiance everything of what was going on and he dosn't seem to care and understands, as something similiar has happened to him. His ex was cheating and when he threw her out of the house with her child (not his) she went to the police and told them he locked her and her kid in his bedroom and wouldn't let them leave, which is actually amazing because I have been in that house and there are no locks on the doors and they open to the inside. So you can lock someone out but not in, and she knew he was starting classes to be a state trooper so you know what happened then. A big your out you have a record you can't carry a gun and since then she has admitted that she was angry at the time and wanted to get back at him so that is why she did it.

I told my ex to call me if he needed me, but his lawyers might say I just need to write a statement. I am a firm believer you treat people you want to be treated, and you stand up for what is right. Why are there so many people out there that are quick to try and destroy other peoples lives when they don't get what they want, and why are the courts so quick to let them destroy these lives without looking into the complaints further. I understand there are alot of woman who rightfully ask for help and need it and should get it, but these false complaints should be also taken seriously and the ones filing them should be punished by the courts but they seem to just brush them off.

It's just amazing and scary that these sort of things can happen.....