I received a text from my sister the other night to call my ex. "Why?" I have not seen or heard from him in 7 years. I heard he was going through some problems in his life with his new girlfriend and mother of his 2 children, but what does this haveto do with me. After many years of fighting major depression of loosing my house, and life as I knew it, seeing I was with this man since I was 14, I have finally moved on and engaged to a wonderful guy who is complete opposite of my ex. When I left him he had kept the house we had bought together.
Appearently this woman has filed a restraining order on him and he is now out of the house and she continues to live there with her 2 children and the 2 they have together, mind you her name is not on the house nor are they married, he has not seen his kids in over a month. She has charged him with pushing her while holding their youngest, and that he is always drunk and is extremely mean when he drinks.
Ok this is what I know about him seeing I was with him for so long and his drinking is the reason I left which got bad the last 1-2 yrs we were together before that he was an occasional drinker.. But he has never hit, pushed, or threatened me in any way, when we were fighting about his drinking and it was usually when he was drunk, I would be the one to go after him becasue he never had any emotion to what he was doing to me-us. He would always try to walk away. He is a nonconfrotational person (and I believe that was another reson why we split as with major problems he would never talk about them) so it is extremely hard to believe that he as has done this. As evidence I guess you would say she states that he has these certain habits due to the fact that is drunk all the time day and night..Uuumm well like I said I was with him for several years and he has always had these habits and I can say nope he dosn't do them because he is drunk.
He has asked me to go to court with him. I have told my fiance everything of what was going on and he dosn't seem to care and understands, as something similiar has happened to him. His ex was cheating and when he threw her out of the house with her child (not his) she went to the police and told them he locked her and her kid in his bedroom and wouldn't let them leave, which is actually amazing because I have been in that house and there are no locks on the doors and they open to the inside. So you can lock someone out but not in, and she knew he was starting classes to be a state trooper so you know what happened then. A big your out you have a record you can't carry a gun and since then she has admitted that she was angry at the time and wanted to get back at him so that is why she did it.
I told my ex to call me if he needed me, but his lawyers might say I just need to write a statement. I am a firm believer you treat people you want to be treated, and you stand up for what is right. Why are there so many people out there that are quick to try and destroy other peoples lives when they don't get what they want, and why are the courts so quick to let them destroy these lives without looking into the complaints further. I understand there are alot of woman who rightfully ask for help and need it and should get it, but these false complaints should be also taken seriously and the ones filing them should be punished by the courts but they seem to just brush them off.
It's just amazing and scary that these sort of things can happen.....
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